As more Nigerians embark on the journey of relocating abroad, commonly referred to as “Japa,” it’s essential to share the diverse experiences and insights gained from living in foreign lands. Our team at iJapa.ng asked a group of friends who have relocated or frequently travel abroad about their experiences. Here are their responses:
What are the things; lifestyles, culture shocks, cuisines, religion, norms, education, government, and discoveries that you have noticed in your travels to foreign countries that took you by surprise, shocked you, disgusted you, or impressed you?
Emeka’s Observations
Emeka: “My negative impression was the unnecessary fear other countries have towards Nigerians. This fear made me appreciate Nigerians’ welcoming attitude towards foreigners, regardless of their nationality. On the positive side, I admired the general contentment and ease with which people abroad approach life, which contrasts sharply with the Nigerian mindset of ‘getting everything by all means necessary.'”
Adebayo’s Extensive Travels
Adebayo has traveled extensively and shared his broad perspective on the Nigerian diaspora’s realities.
Adebayo: “Nigerians are some of the smartest yet potentially most deceitful people one could meet. One minute, you meet someone who has built great businesses abroad from scratch, and the next minute, you encounter someone who will defraud others in a heartbeat. Nigerians can literally be found in every country of the globe. Many inexperienced people believe that the minute you go abroad, you will start making millions miraculously, but that’s far from the truth.”
He continues: “Living abroad has taught me that while some Nigerians will go to great lengths to leave the country, others long to return to Nigeria to flaunt a false sense of success. Also, people who move from villages in Nigeria to Western countries often undergo significant cultural transformations.”
Chioma’s Perspective
Chioma offers a different view, focusing on the attitudes and perceptions towards Nigerians abroad.
Chioma: “Fear and hostility towards Nigerians abroad might stem from preconceived notions and negative portrayals in the media. Nigerians need to take personal responsibility for their actions rather than attributing every negative experience to their nationality. Overcoming low self-esteem and tribalism is crucial, as these factors can contribute to negative perceptions.”
Kelechi’s Advice
Kelechi shares practical advice for those considering Japa, based on his own experiences.
Kelechi: “Living abroad offers opportunities, but it also comes with significant challenges. I advise against selling properties in Nigeria for the sake of relocating, as the grass is not always greener on the other side. Cultural differences, such as the lack of communal living and the high cost of living, are real. Potential migrants should prepare thoroughly and consider bringing their spouses to make the transition smoother.”
Adebayo’s Insight on Marriage
Adebayo discusses the dynamics of marrying someone from Nigeria and bringing them abroad.
Adebayo: “Cultural changes are inevitable, and men should not expect their spouses to remain the same once they experience life in a Western country. It’s important for those considering international marriages to understand and adapt to these changes. This insight is crucial for maintaining a healthy relationship.”
Conclusion
The experiences shared by Emeka, Adebayo, Chioma, and Kelechi provide a balanced view of the realities of living abroad. While there are undeniable benefits, such as improved quality of life and new opportunities, there are also significant challenges and cultural adjustments. It is essential for those considering Japa to prepare thoroughly, manage their expectations, and remain adaptable.
Call to Action
Do you have a Japa story to share, or do you know someone whose experience could inspire or caution others? We invite you to connect with us and share your journey. Your story could be the guiding light someone needs to make an informed decision about relocating abroad. Visit iJapa.ng/share-your-story to contribute your experiences.
